There are essentially three kinds of change that come to someone in this life: change you didn’t want, but is forced upon you; change you try to force upon the world; and, change you asked for, but doesn’t resemble precisely the way you’d envisioned it happening.
When you are far way from God, the only change that matters is the second one. You’ll be incapable of recognizing the third one, and have nothing but contempt for the first. But, when you get closer to God, the third one starts to appear all the time, and it suddenly looks far better than anything you could have dreamed.
A is completely representative of the third option. She is everything I asked God for, and nothing less, even though I never precisely dreamed up a lady like her. In fact, she is so much more than anyone from those dreams or attempts to force change upon the world.
I am falling madly and completely in love with her.